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    January 27, 2013
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me and shook me a little bit, and it was pretty cool. >> it wasn't life altering, like i am from now on black. it helped open my mind up a lot, but i don't think it's going to completely change everything. but, like, it's a milestone for me. >> after poetry workshop, nio makes a mad dash to choir performance. nio is a soprano, a featured soloist. ♪ >> she sees herself as ambitious, talented. will there ever be a time when the world sees her only as that? >> so you connect the dots with the freckles that i lack. remove an accent, multiply by every curl on this nap pi, nap pi head and what do you get?
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ambiguous. >> i apologize my race is invisible to your eyes -- >> but last time i checked it was none of your business, and so do we a favor and stop assuming. because i'm more than my race. >> i'm more than my color. the next time you feel tempted to ask, don't. or have the courtesy not to stare at me like i'm some beast and ask, what are you? what are you? tonight he's back. tony robbins. >> add more value than anybody else does and you'll have a chance to win. >> and overcome stress. >> happiness isn't all it's cracked up to be. meaning is. >> and keeping america great. >> our celebration of initiate i have and enterprise. our insistence on hard work and personal responsibility.
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these are constants in our character. >> we used to be able to have a dialogue and today it's, you're right, you're wrong. >> with inspirational stories and people you'll never forget. >> the moment that you were shot, what went through your mind? >> you just got to get away. >> i went to combat four times, but i count my life as my fifth combat. >> i haven't found any place where the human spirit is limited. >> tony robbins for the hour. this is piers morgan tonight." >> good evening. president obama was sworn in for liz second term. america is facing much promise and uncertainty. the economy, hurricane sandy and the tragedy in nowtown. america is looking for answers and hope and tony robbins is one of the best guys i could think of to give us booet of those things. now he has a message for you and america. he brought rather special guests for him.
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i can't think of a better guy really to have here. i get the feeling it's a really overriding feeling that america is hurting right now. america feels vulnerable, fearful, and you see this because of the gun crisis. >> yes. >> you see this because of the financial crisis. there's just a crisis of confidence generally amongst americans. do you feel that? and what is the answer? >> there's no single answer. you're not going to change the world overnight, but you can change yourself. i think the biggest challenge that we face is we're not just missing our confidence because we're out of control, we're missing our confidence because we need to retool. the world has changed. most people say you have to deal with change. change is automatic. progress is not. if you're going to make progress, you and i have to develop more than just self-confidence. we have to have self-discipline and self-control. you know, we're part of a culture that for decades taught us, reinforce your children's self-esteem. you can't get self-esteem from
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another person. you can only get that from yourself. when you have discipline and self-control and a sense of confidence or certainty, that's when people are able to change their lives. our country has had a series of events that produced enormous uncertainty. we need to retool, not just get more confident. >> on the positive, extremely great periods in american history have followed extremely bad periods. fdr rebuilt america in spectacular fashion. so there is a precedent. and it's not like this it is the worst time america has been through, not by a long way. i think perspective probably has to be brought into this, right? >> it peeves, but also understanding there are seasons. and every season gives different benefits or pains or problems. by the time you were 19 years old, when you were coming of age, you were jumping oit of
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buildings. that group of people that went through that developed emotional muscle. a ready nns that allowed many eto change the world. that's not just being positive. when trauma happens it can either destroy you or drive you. we have to make the choice. >> let's listen to something president obama said in his inauguration speech this week. >> a decade of war is now ending. an economic recovery has begun. america's possibilities are limitless. for we possess all the qualities
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that this world without boundaries demands. youth and drive, diversity and openness, an endless capacity for risk, and a gift for reinvention. my fellow americans, we are made for this moment. and we will seize it, so long as we seize it together. >> the president there sounding upbeat. acknowledging it's been a tough time. there are challenges obviously ahead. how is he doing do you think? a lot of this comes from the leader in terms of the spirit of a country. in terms of its ability to resurge, if you like. is obama the right man? do you like what you see for maybe the second term obama already? >> i love the man. i voted for him originally. i actually went to a meeting with 18 of the top tech executives, the guys who started google. and in the meeting, everybody was a big supporter. i said, mr. president, i love your heart. i absolutely believe in your intelligence. i know you care. i voted for you the first time but i said i would love to know how it's going to be different -- this is prior to the election -- when there's such demonization going on. i think that's the significant problem in our country. it's not one person. we used to be able to have a dialogue. today it's you're right, you're wrong. that process happens in the gun debate, it's happening
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everywhere in this country. i had a conversation with him and said, listen, if you think the solution that you're telling me you're going to do in your next term is you're going to raise taxes on the wealthy, i'm more than willing to pay that. i'm supportive of that. but that will raise $80 billion. even less now because they cut it from 250 as the cutoff. that will run the country for eight days. $10.4 billion a day. that's not even going to scratch the $1.1 trillion. what else are we going to do? he said i think what will happen is the republicans will have a kick-around and we'll start working together. i said as long as there's demonization, there's no chance of coming up with an intelligent compromise. an adviser for the president said i think that's enough. he said no,
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he said tony has given us creative tension and he pulled me aside and said, come to the white house and we'll talk about this. we have to have a unifying message. we're missing that right now. >> as you say, something's changed in america. now there are many rivals for that position. that will increase over the next few decades. america has to respond. it can't respond perhaps in the way it would have done 50 years ago. >> the president has his hands full, to be fair. he talked about the worst day of his presidency with sandy hook. but you're right, there needs to be unifying vision. someone is saying, kennedy, we're going to go to space, or have this war on poverty. right now our goals are to pay our bills. it's hard to get people to find a way to power themselves when what they're aspiring to is depressing. that's not just the president's fault, it's true, the leadership of our country has to say, here's where we're going to go. we can pay our bills and we're going to be okay. to be fair to the president, i think when you see tears in his eyes, it's about the issue of there being a future for young people for the next generation. i think he really sincerely cares. >> tell me this. what is this future going to be
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in terms of america incorporated as a business model? because a lot of the things that america used to be great for, manufacturing, for example, they've changed so dramatically and become so global, you can't really go back and do that again. even if you have the money to do it. america needs to find other business models, doesn't it? >> it is. it's in the middle of it. we're in the middle of that process. in manufacturing, there's been growth primarily because we found the new technologies to bring us energy. we have more natural gas than saudi arabia has oil. so there's some changes. people are coming back here because it's cheaper to do business in america. i think what's more important is the average american. the average american, if we're sitting and waiting for the government to come up with the answer for us, the president to come up with a vision, you'll have a problem. if you've been on unemployment for 12 million americans, those jobs probably aren't coming back. it's time to retool and say where is the next opportunity, is it in health care, is it in green. where am i going to get the
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skills. the government is going to step up and say here's a pathway. you've got to find it yourself. >> we've seen apple and starbucks make a turn in the water. >> you talked about that the last time i was on. >> apple has since then done so. it was a start. but it's about the principle, really, of great american companies in the tech world. they lead the world. but a lot of the stuff's outsourced outside of america. that doesn't really help the american jobs market, even though by being successful companies they do in that way. >> yes. i think you've got to look at it in the context, talking about looking back through history. if you and i were having this discussion 100 years ago, 40% of americans were farmers. now it's just 2%. we don't just feed america, we feed the world.
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it's a chance for us to take those resources and redeploy them. what's missing is the leadership saying here's where you've got to go. i donated 1 million meals last year. my foundation, 4 million meals. if you take people for two years and take care of them and don't give them new skills, they lose confidence. they lose certainty. and i find that they're going to become institutionalized and not be a part of the new future. i think our job is to say here are the tools to get you to the next level of your life, so you can create the new american revolution. >> when you talk about this transformation, the post-traumatic stress in all its guises to post-draw traumatic growth, what do you mean? >> most people know about post-traumatic stress, and it severely affects them for the rest of their life, they can't sleep, nightmares. but there are people who have gone through the exact same trauma and they found in themselves the drive where they're no longer broken and they heal. there's three things people find who have done the studies on. if you make it to the growth side, where you're expanding and able to deal with it, the number one thing is you find out you're more powerful than anything you
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ever thought. you're bigger than any event. second, you find out who your real friends are. not your facebook friends, your friends who show up, and those relationships, they deepen. the third thing is, it's almost like you have antibodies. you have this set of muscles that allow you to deal with things in the future. what people do in that area is they decide, i won't be beaten by this. they draw a line in the sand and go, i know if i continue down this road, my life's over. they make that decision. what they do is find something bigger than themself to go after, a mission. a woman loses her family member to drunk driving, she started madd, for example. now she's out there, mothers against drunk driving and making that shift. she has a mission larger than herself. they start stacking the small victories. out of that they get emotional muss am and they're able to help mus other people. >> does it apply to any other form of trauma, or are there grades of trauma? >> i've seen it happen with people who have lost their children, i've seen it with people who have witnessed the death of people around them, people have lost limbs. i haven't found any place where
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the human spirit is limited. >> a great example of that coming up. after the break, i want to bring out a survivor of a high school shooting. he's in a wheelchair. he's an incredible story, a young man, i know you've been working with him. and i want to find out what you think about him. ♪ good morning, turtle. ♪ my friends are all around me ♪ my friends, they do surround me ♪ ♪ i hope this never ends ♪ and we'll be the best of friends ♪ ♪ all set? all set. [ male announcer ] introducing the reimagined 2013 chevrolet traverse, with spacious seating for up to eight. imagine that.
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911, what's your emergency? >> we just had a shooting at our school. we need to get out of here. >> ma'am, we've got a school shooting. ma'am? what school? >> chardon high school. everyone's running away.
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>> where is the student with the gun? >> i don't know. he was in the cafeteria and everyone started running. >> that was a chilling 911 call from last february's deadly high school shooting in ohio. a 17-year-old opened fire killing three students and wound bing three others, including our next guest. tony robbins is my special guest of the hour. welcome to you both. >> thank you. >> i remember this happening. another outrage involving guns in america. let me start with you, nick, if i may. you were shot four times. you were paralyzed after what happened. you're in a wheelchair now. the moment that you were shot, what goes through your mind? >> what i really -- what was going through my mind was i had to get out of the high school. and really, nothing else flows through your mind. you've just got to get away. you don't have time to think about anything else.
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>> you were a fit, young sports-loving boy at school, suddenly you're in a wheelchair. the moment of realization for you when you know that that is going to be certainly for the foreseeable future, your new life, it must be a crushing thing to have to deal with. how did you deal with it? >> i had a lot of support. the community, my friends, and my family. probably the best thing that i could ever ask for. >> did you despair? >> i mean, i did, yeah. i did. but like i said, the community, friends and family did help me out. and they helped me not be so upset about what really happened. i've just got to move on. >> nick, i'm curious, was there a stage where some part of you just realized if i stay in this place of pain, it will be for the rest of my life, and then
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you made a decision to change? or what do you think helped you to start to make the shift besides your family? what was it that they did that helped you? >> well, i had a lot of support from other people texting me and calling me that are in wheelchairs. and one of them's scott hasel. he's in a wheelchair. a great guy. he answers any question i have. >> was he involved in the shooting as well? >> no. he was in a diving accident. >> he was able to talk you through, i guess, the psychological journey you were going to go on. >> right. >> because he's been there. >> yeah. because he's paralyzed, too. he knows exactly what i went
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through. people will tell me, you know, yeah, i know. if i tell them it's hard for me, they'll be like, yeah, i know. >> but they don't know. >> you don't know. >> somebody who's been paralyzed, and let me come to you, this is every mother's nightmare. this is your son. he's 17, as he was at the time. and suddenly his whole life changes. i guess your first feeling is, thank god he's alive. and then you have to deal with the fact that he's paralyzed. what was it like for you as his mother? >> it really didn't happen that way. it was -- i think it was just denial at first. i said, nick was shot. then somebody said, oh, he was shot through the shoulder. you know, you're like, okay, what happened? what is going on? you see it all over the news. and then when i got to the hospital it was a lot different. it was like, wow, this is my son. and i just remember him looking at me and he said, mom, i can't feel my legs. and that was one of the hardest things to hear in your whole life, you know.
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>> what is the prognosis, nick? >> they said that they were cautiously optimistic when they came out of surgery. so we're still hoping and praying. you never know. >> tony, it's interesting, listening to nick there, that for all the love and support you can get from family, obviously led by holly, but many friends, family, texting and all that, that's helpful. >> yes. >> in making you feel a little bit better. but actually, it was really the words from a young man who had been through a similar thing. is that something you should look for? a particular support group, knows exactly what you've been through. >> it's somebody who's been through it, but has an outlook that's positive. all human beings when we go through trauma, what gets us through today is if we have a promising tomorrow. tomorrow may not be that i'm able to run, but tomorrow is, i can have a beautiful relationship, i can make a difference in the world. i can become a person who has impact. that's the number one thing. something that makes you say, there's something i value more than my today pain.
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and it's a tomorrow that i want to create for myself. he has that. you can see it in his eyes. we talked a little bit beforehand. the second thing that usually gets people through this, and i say through it, have a quality lifestyle. there are people who have all the use of their limbs and have a horrible life. they live in pain and frustration. and there have been people through hell on earth and they have promising lives. if managing your own thoughts and self-discipline and self-control, but it's also having a mission bigger than yourself. since you've been helped, i talk about each one teach one, i wonder if you might be interested in going with me to some of the members of sandy hook and doing what was done for you. you're already doing unbelievably well. i had a chance to meet you backstage. i think you could go to another level. what do you think of that? >> i would love that. >> let's do it together. shake on it? >> he came to me a few days after the tragedy at sandy hook
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and said that me and some of my friends want to go there. we want to talk to them and tell them how it feels, you know, that you're going to be angry, you're going to be sad. every day is going to be so different. >> yes. >> and it will come back. then it will go away. >> there are two traumatic situations. one is being paralyzed. the other one is actually having been shot in a massacre situation, which is really the stuff of nightmares. i suppose my question for you is, how hard is it for you? you seem such a calm, confident young man, despite what's happened to you. how hard is it when other shootings happen, and you hear or read about it? does that bring it all back? >> yeah.
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it brings me a little confusion, too. like i just don't understand why all this happens. this isn't what america was made for. you know, it's just sad. it's really sad. >> what can really make the difference is things happen in life, and when they're meaningless, the pain never goes away. i have the use of my life, but people who have dealt with your situation is when they can find, because this happened, i can make something else better for another human being. that's when there's a positive meaning. you don't wish it on anybody. but only people who have gone through spiritual pain have the spiritual strength to heal other people. i don't mean it in a religious experience. you have that power, because you made that shift in yourself. this can be the beginning of that journey. >> what ambitions do you have? has it changed your outlook? do you have particular goals now? obviously one would be to get out of the wheelchair. but aside from that. have you set things for yourself that you want to achieve? >> well, obviously i had to switch around my career a little bit that i was aiming for.
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but i really just want a good career. >> what would you want to be? >> i wanted to be just an electrician, in the union. i don't believe that can happen practically right now. so i'm actually taking an auburn class, which is an alternative study class for any electrical components. i'm going to switch to small electronics instead. >> good for you. >> i'll see what i can do with that. >> same kind of thing, just a different way of doing it. >> right. >> which is adapting to what's happened to you. nick, holly, thank you so much for coming in. it's an awful story, but inspiring story. awful story. i think your attitude is absolutely the right one. i think it's right, go to sandy hook and help there. they'll be desperately trying to figure out what their lives are going to be like. it's a great example of how you give back and get on with things. thank you very much. >> thank you. >> when we come back, tony and i will talk to a former marine about the post-traumatic battles he's faced in afghanistan and
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i've been to combat five times. see what i've seen. the death, the funerals, been around a bunch of explosions. i have light sensitivity, and ptsd. i've been through so much trauma. >> here on the front lines, speaking out about his troubled journey back from war, casey wilson. served in afghanistan, kosovo and iraq. tony robbins helped him overcompost traumatic stress disorder. he has ptsd something many war heroes suffer from. it's powerful and moving address you gave there. you can see the physical effects. you were shaking and you've clearly been through all sorts of trauma, in different ways. before you met tony, what was your life like? >> i was doing a lot of current therapy, you know, psychiatry,
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psychology, which i started in 2011. 2010, i started doing -- trying to figure out my life, because i went through a second divorce. and so i didn't understand the whole process, why was i feeling this way? so i started to seek treatment at that time. i was going to acupuncture, healing touch, meditation. >> did it help, any of that? >> yes. it was helping to an extent, you know. like i said, i was just 20-plus years in the marine corps. i had severe trauma at a child which i never realized was a problem until, you know, i just added more stuff after more stuff in my life. '. >> why don't you tell them what your symptoms were at the time. >> basically insomnia. i would probably sleep four or five hours a night, but i would wake up 45 minutes to every hour. i would have severe tremors.
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you know, i had severe tremors. i was -- before i knew of my light sensitivity, i always had headaches and migraines. i would have to go into dark rooms, take a nap. and, you know, i would just be breaking down myself in a sense. >> what was the rock bottom moment for you? >> the rock bottom moment for me, in a sense, was -- it was after my second divorce. just being -- i pushed so many people away. i couldn't figure out why i felt this way. i deployed eight times. you know, i went to combat four times, but i count my life as my fifth combat. you know, deployment. i've been fighting myself prior to -- in my younger age, until my age i am, 39 years old, when i went to date with destiny december 1 where, you know, i needed to get a little bit of mo
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vags because here i am about to retire from the marine corps. >> tony, there are tens of thousands of american service men and women who go through similar trauma. it's been a terrible period for the american military. constantly in combat in various countries. what do you say in that situation? >> it isn't just saying. we've done this with hundreds of wounded warriors and different soldiers. inside every human being, we have trauma. his was extreme trauma. there's a personality in him that was beyond wounded. but inside of everyone, there's a part of you that's whole and strong. that's truly untouched by the experience. so what i had to do is find out -- he was trying to express his feign and i felt that. then i got him to connect to a part of himself that is whole. this part you can see on camera, we gave it a name. the name was tigger. when he changed to that kind of personality, his glasses came off, he was able to see without the headaches.
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he stopped tremoring. he had been shaking like this for hours. all that stopped literally in minutes. an hour later he was on stage with a group of, about 2,500 people from 80 countries rocking them, sharing his mission for his life. he found something greater than his pain. he found something he wanted to serve, like he served for his country. now it's to serve other people. >> is that a regular people for people coming out of combat zones, i have military people in my family, and when they're home, they get listless and restless, and start to feel strange, just not being where they're used to being, in that dangerous environment. >> we don't know how to open up, or express our -- tell our story either. that's also part of the problem. and the other part, too, as well, is being accepted in society. you know, because there's a brotherhood in the services around the world. and we have a problem when we come out of the service, you know, to the civilian world where people will judge us and use -- if they find out about
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our trauma, in one way or another, will use that against us. there is no brotherhood that i would say in a civilian community. >> when you see people who have gone through, what my previous guest went through, a school shooting, a young man and all the trauma that's happened to him. what do you think of that? what advice would you give him? >> basically he has to take back his life. finding forgiveness, you know, it's more finding forgiveness for himself so he can find peace in his life. he has so much potential that he's able to basically be able to impact and change so many people's lives. >> tony, is that a regular thing, too, if you feel too angry and bitter about what's happened to you, that's a huge barrier to being able to get through it? >> it's not just a barrier to get through it, science shows five minutes of rage, you certainly have the right to have, and what he's been through in his life, will shut down literally your immune system for
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four hours. what successful people do is they stack victories. that's also what we did with him. we said there's a different set of rules. you can't come as a marine, you've got to come as a guy who was whole. what was it like before. when he tapped into the playful guy who has this jump in his step and is laughing, that's when the glasses came off and he said i want people to see my baby blues. people were cheering. he got to feel this connection with people at a human level. it's also having something you value more than your pain. he values mission. he values being able to make a difference. he has a new mission back here at home. >> good for you. thank you for your service. >> thank you. >> which is still actually ongoing you told me. we wish you all the best for it. more importantly, it was your life in the combat you made, extraordinary to see. >> thank you. >> good to see. >> coming next, a man who lost everything and is now worth $50 million. we'll find out how he did it, coming up next. [ male announcer ] you are a business pro.
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right now, millions of americans are still out of work.
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my next guest knows exactly how they feel. my next guest knows exactly how they feel. mike is a business owner who lost everything in 2008. i mean everything. now he's overcome that financial ruin and runs two businesses with revenues worth $50 million. congratulations. >> thank you. >> it's been a roller coaster ride. you've known tony for 17 years. and you've been up and down in that period of time. >> correct. >> tell me quickly the journey you've been on. >> i started off coming from a very challenging background, single mother, raised by a single mother. had no education. and really, no hope. and what i always say, i was lucky that i was put in front of an icon of empowerment. >> he is. every time i interview him, i feel empowered. >> that's true. what he is is an incredible educator. by the grace of the universe i was able to fall in the lap of this educator. he helped get me out of that place where i was, where there was no hope. >> he was homeless at the time. what i love about mike's story,
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is mike just didn't help himself. he built a small business to start with. one of the young women who worked for him was addicted to meth. how did you end up in your new business? >> the young woman had come to work for me a number of years ago. you could tell something was wrong. she was addicted to methamphetamine. she was a daily user of ecstacy. i got her involved in mr. robbins' program. within 30 day, she was completely off of drugs. it turned out her father, her dad was incredibly successful in the metal recycling business. i got a call from him shortly thereafter who said anybody who has influence over human beings like this needs to help. he taught me the business. seven months later he allowed me to buy him out. years later, i continued to grow and grow and grow. >> amazing. >> until 2008. >> you built up this $13 million business. and then you literally almost lost it overnight in the big crash of '08. >> it was interesting. four months before the crash, tony calls me and says, mike,
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you need to prepare. and as everyone in the country kept saying, we're strong. the economists are saying, we're strong. i didn't listen to him. i should have listened to him. >> why wouldn't you listen to tony robbins? >> things were going great. >> that was mainly thanks to him. >> i know. that's true. overnight, as you know, the economy collapses. the metal business completely collapses. >> when that happened to you, and having gone from literally nothing, you were a homeless guy to $13 million business, and then it all disappears, what was that like for you? >> i didn't care about losing the material possessions. i had a 3-year-old son at the time. he's now 7. the only thing that was going through my mind was, how do i face my son. from the day he came home from the hospital, i was determined he was not going to grow up in the same environment that i did. and all i wanted to do is have my little boy sit on my lap when he was old enough and say, you know what, there's nothing you can't do. you can become anything. i don't want my boy to look up
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at me and say, daddy, if that's true, how come you haven't done it? that was what was crushing my heart. i just could not fail. and come up with an excuse for this little boy. >> tony, can anybody be like this? or do you have to have a little bit of ferocity of spirit? >> i think ferocity of spirit is critical for everybody. but we all have it. it's like a muscle. >> do we all have it? >> sure we do. but courage unused becomes weaker. determination unused gets smaumer. passion unexpressed gets smaller. like any muscle, the more you use it. he's been using it for years. his son, here's the other thing, he had a reason larger than himself. you see the pattern of all the people who have overcome. at the time he said he was worried about his employees and he really cares about his people. but you have to make that shift where it's no longer an excuse. if you give yourself an excuse, humans will take it. if you're going to take the island you burn the boat. and he burned the boat and said i'm going to find the answer. he shifted to psychology and got the skills. like i said earlier, it's not
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just confidence. you have to have skill. he had both. show them what you did. >> after that particular business mastering program, as tony said, 80% of it is psychology, and 20% of it is mechanics, or the strategies. unless you get the psychology down, the mechanics don't matter. i can tell you, from that day in november of 2008, where i made that decision, that i was not going to fail, and i kissed my lady and said, i'm going back to work, and we went out there and i learned how to export. and when there was no market for steel in the united states, i was able to export to several different countries. and we took off from there. we continued to grow. and it was just, again, about a mind-set. it's about having a level of pride. for me, it was coming from where i come from, the name didn't mean a whole heck of a lot. i was determined to change that. it's something i call generational influence. i'm not doing this for me. i'm doing this for my son. >> is that good advice, tony?
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there are millions and millions of americans out of work. many suffering very hurt pride. never mind anything else and real financial hardship. is that a good focus to look at children, to look at other things and say, you know what, stop feeling sorry for myself, it's for him, for her, for that. >> most of the -- i think what's beautiful about most human beings is we'll do more for people we love than ourselves. and mote i have does matter. if you just try to do something for yourself, you only get a certain level of insight. if you do it for others, it comes to a level of insight. mike got the belief out of business mastery that money is still changing hands. i need to see how to get that. how to add value to people's lives. where do i get it and where is that value available? >> what do you say to the people suffering in america right now? >> tony is absolutely right. we need to take the focus off of ourselves and stop feeling sorry about ourselves. it's about serving humanity, about serving people. it's all about service. and we have just got to get out there. tony talked about earlier about
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retooling. it's about learning new skills. when i talked about finding an icon of empowerment, whether it's anthony robbins, whether it's someone like oprah winfrey, a school or university, you need to get in there and learn the new skills. then you've got to get out there and you've got to perform by serving. serving humanity. it isn't about me, it isn't about me making money or dollar amount, it's about protecting the people that i love, the people that i care about. if you follow that formula, you cannot fail. >> what i said earlier about bitterness and anger and resentment, self-pity is also a complete waste of time and energy. it's perfectly understandable. all of those emotions are just barriers to getting back on your feet, aren't they? >> that's correct. all emotions serve. anger, frustration, it's all valuable, but not if you live there. all those emotions that create pain, they're designed to get you to change, to do something. if you just sit and live in the emotion, and you don't do anything, the pain just gets deeper and it becomes your groove and your grave.
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if you shift those emotional states, cl is what we teach people to do, physically, not fake positive thinking, but with a real strategy, a real action plan, that's all business is, add more value than anybody else does and you'll have a chance to win. that's what he's done. >> great story. mike, good to meet you. >> my pleasure. >> tony gives you five ways to immediately change your life. so...how'd it go? well, dad, i spent my childhood living with monks learning the art of dealmaking. you've mastered monkey-style kung fu? no. priceline is different now. you don't even have to bid. master hahn taught you all that? oh, and he says to say
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(translated from cantonese) "you still owe him five bucks." your accent needs a little work.
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right now my special gift, tony robbins. common themes, all the people have had hard knocks in their lives. have you a five point plan anyone can follow to get over stress and trauma. walk me through it. >> the quality of your life is the quality of where you live emotionally. we all have a home. angry people find a way to get angry. sad people find a way to be sad. caring people find a way to care about other people. where are you living, what's your home, what's your habit. the way to change it, when i was homeless, i didn't have the
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internet, i decided i had to go to a library and feed my mind. the first stage is, weeds grow automatically. every day stand guard of your mind and feed it. if you feed your mind every day, reading something, hearing something, second, you have to strengthen your body. fear is physical, right? so is stag nation, numbness, sadness, rage. when you go in to change your body by an intense workout or run, or walk and the blood's flowing through, it automatically changes your biochemistry. the third thing, people found a mission bigger than themselves. you have to find a role model that makes it real. i was with warren buffett and sarah blakley, the youngest
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billionaire. we do this roundtable about the future. when women meet her, they don't just love spanx her product, they love her because she's a role model of what's possible. you get a role model, you get a plan. the last step, there's always somebody worse off than you are, i don't care what you've done. if you can help somebody worse off, it will put your life in perspective, and life's not about me, it's about we. the secret to a great life, is giving. and there's -- you realize there's something still to give, even if you lost your legs, you've been through a horrific financial situation, your life can improve, more importantly, you have a meaningful life. >> you're successful, rich, famous, super fit good looking guy. >> if you can have any one thing, you can have good health, you can have money, you can have
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fame, allows you to inspire people, what would you choose? >> i certainly think it's a life of meaning, i don't think it, i know it is. feeling life matters. you and i have both had lots of friends who have achieved everything. they're missing a meaningful life. meaning comes from two things. happiness comes from progress, if you can do something where you're growing and because you've grown, you have something to drive to other people that's meaningful, insight, love, caring, something, life is rich. happiness comes and goes. happiness isn't all it's cracked up to be. meaning is, there are people who have gone through horrible times, a woman who is 109 years old, she was in the concentration camps. that woman's life is so rich because of all the pain. still at 109 she's strong. she shares her music, she does the things that make her feel
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like she has a contribution. >> as always, incredibly inspiring. tony robbins, we'll be right back. before copd... i took my son fishing every year. we had a great spot, not easy to find, but worth it. but with copd making it hard to breathe, i thought those days might be over. so my doctor prescribed symbicort. it helps significantly improve my lung function starting within five minutes. symbicort doesn't replace a rescue inhaler for sudden symptoms. with symbicort, today i'm breathing better. and that means...fish on! symbicort is for copd including chronic bronchitis and emphysema. it should not be taken more than twice a day. symbicort may increase your risk of lung infections, osteoporosis, and some eye problems. tell your doctor if you have a heart condition or high blood pressure before taking it.
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